Who's loving you?

Lot's of people on the dating seen will tell you the type of person they are looking for. I think it is a good move to have standards, aspirations, and expectations in mind as you search for that special someone. However, I keep seeing the same mistake over and over again. People are looking for someone much different than the person they are.

Male friends of mine have often set incredibly high standards on physical appearance when it comes to the women they are seeking out. If that is your thing that's fine. However, these brotha's didn't have the same physical counterpart to offer. They were out of shape, flabby, no style. Women often do the same thing. They look for men that are in a different financial class, have prestige, or are in the right circle. These issues in and of themselves are not problems. Many people have found the one they love in a social setting they never expected. It happens.

In spite of it happening, I am of the belief that like people will meet like people. Said another way, "Birds of a feather flock together." Yet another way to state it (Amos 3:3), "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" If you happen to be single and disappointed in who has approached you or who you are dating you should take a look in the mirror. Ask yourself, Who am I that I am attracting these types of people?" "What signals am I sending out that I am picked up on this persons radar?"

If you are saved and you want a saved mate (which you should) don't go looking for your mate at the club. It is likely they are not their. If you want to marry someone that is in shape, don't go to the donut shop. Try the gym. That's where people that care about their bodies typically go. College grads tend to marry college grads, athletes-athletes, and so on. Be who you want to have in a relationship. Be a person of character, be a person of compassion, be adventurous, be faithful. Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world (mate-my own personal insert)."

This is by no means a law or the absolute truth, but a principal for success. Improve your chances of finding lasting love by finding people that are of the same ilk as you. More than anything character is the most important like factor to find. If you can agree on moral norms, values, and faith you are off to a great start. Remember to ask yourself, "Who's loving you?"